So I was in this great debate with some friends and some associates the other night. This topic has come up before in many different circles. Faking Orgasms. Even the guys are claiming to fake it and by fake it I assume they mean faking their enjoyment or sexual pleasure because of the mere fact that their orgasms are evidenced. Listen, not every woman experiences orgasm thru sexual intercourse. Because of the location of the infamous G-Spot, orgasms can be elusive for many. This is why clitoral stimulation is very important. There are over 8,000 never endings in the clit baybay! What that G-Spot won't do the clit will. This is why some women require that you perform cunnilingus; if you can't beat it eat it.
Anywho, the conversation went something like this.
The guys said that the younger women put in more work. That if the guy climaxed first, the younger women made sure to get them (the guys) aroused again so that they can proceed to make sure that they (the gals) have an orgasm. (basically she would do whatever it took to make sure his dick was hard enough so that in the next round it would be her time to cum).
Now I'm not a difficult person to get along with. As a matter of fact I'm a woman of too many chances. Also I know my body and I know how to achieve an orgasm independently of a partner. I gat dis! So I'm not difficult to please. However, I do have preferences and I do appreciate a guy who recovers quickly. Now I've said before that I am not unreasonable. So I know some factors can determine how quickly a guy can get another erection, age being a primary factor. So I have to note that I was talking to some guys over forty years old. My sexual experiences have forced me to manage my expectations so considering who I was talking to the rhetoric was not surprising.
Now my female counterparts (1) did not like the implication that older (tired body) women could not or did not put in said work to allow a guy to move on to round two and (b) that it was their responsibility to do this.
As I sat and listened to them I thought to myself DF! Hmmmm Sir, do you remember back when you were 20ish you did not have this problem? Well then. Do you know that there are younger guys who do not require all that slapping up? Aint nobody have time for all that. As a matter of fact, these fellas (young studs, biddies, Jrs) out here executing multiple rounds without even so much as a water break!
So you can understand how this discussion went. But it reminded me that sex is a two way street. We all want to be pleased so we all should equally participate. Sometimes women have to be the instigator. Men don't always want to be the one to initiate sex. Men get tired. They don't always want to put in all the work. Sometimes women have to take control.
Women want happy endings too guys. You can't be the only one having an orgasm. Even if you orgasm (cum) first please make sure that there is a next round and your partner cums too. In doing that, you really need to find out the easiest way for this to happen. For those women who come easily during sex it may depend on the position. Positions that bring the G-Spot closer to you are better. Sometimes some women don't even know what that is until you try it. Most women I've spoken to experience orgasms when they are laying on their side. Some women have to be in control so they ride themselves into their own orgasm.
If she cums easier by clitoral stimulation, you can perform oral sex ORRRRRR you can use a sex toy. Don't get all bent out of shape. Of course I am not attacking your manhood blah blah blah. I am merely suggesting that you make the woman happy. You don't have to use a whole dildo. But a small non-invasive finger vibe can blow her mind.
You can slide the Oral Love Finger Vibe on your index finger and gently rub it against her clit during sex. (I recommend doggy style) BOOM! She climaxes during sex! Everyone wins. For decoration, you can use a clitoral stimulant like ME SO HORNY which gives a warm heating sensation along with the finger vibe.
So no more of this faking it crap! We too grown to be faking anything people. You deserve to have an awesome sex life, great sexual experiences and mind blowing orgasms. So please as always, talk to your partner. Try new positions, and try some toys! See what works and make sure that both of you are happy!
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