When Trey Songz said " I love the way you fuck me, I luv the way you fuck me" on Tank's trapsy ass song 'When We'-I felt that.? As a matter of fact I feel it everytime.  It's the perfect catalyst for a dick ?appointment.

I say it all the time; sex starts in the mind. ?Music, alcohol and memories can spark the motivation to reach out to that person. Or sometimes the intention is not even there but you end up flirting your way into an agreement where you show up at a certain place and time to have the kind of sex where only cuss words and safe words are used.

So now that you have secured said appointment, here is how not to f it up:

In order for it to be successful you both have to match each other's energy. You both have to be on the same page -two willing participants who are both into it. No coercion, no manipulation, nothing forced. This one time at band camp? I met this guy who was a SUPER FREAK?‍♂️ I needed all of my wheaties just to match his energy and not just physically. His excitement level eclipsed mine so much it made me a little paranoid. I was like dude calm down it is not that serious. But in hindsight it was flattering to have someone trip over your sex like that.?

Leave your expectations and  inhibitions at the door. Your mind should be as open as your legs.  Have that converastion about hard NOs ?beforehand so that there are no misunderstandings. Be ready and open to try new things and don't judge your partner.  Don't overthink things.  Just allow the scence to unfold naturally.

Come prepared. This not only means protection but also includes lubes, lingerie, massage oils, toys and anything else that you may need or want to experience.

Show up to serve. Instead of focusing on self gratification focus on blowing your partner's mind! If both of you are hellbent on pleasing each other instead of pleasing yourselves no one will leave feeling robbed. This is the law of reciprocity.

Act brand new.  Do something new, try new positions, dress up or down or even a new personality. Get creative and make it interesting. Treat everytime like the first time.

Say less and do more! ?What can I say? The best appointments are those where you barely say a word to each other. Nothing needs to be said. You just know what the other person needs and excute without any unecessary verbal communication. Have you ever had one senctence or word ruin your entire mood? Yeah that! So keep it quiet and just allow your bodies to talk.

Finally ladies and gents try your best to keep your appoinments.? If you anticipate that you may have to cancel please give proper notice. Don't waste people's time because you may never get another appointment again.