That doesn't mean that your sex life should suffer! Who said you needed someone to be sexually satisfied?  You'll don't remember when K.B. said "I don't need nobody else I can play by myself.  I don't need no company. I can play by myself."   

Aint not shame in the game!

Adult novelties can bring excitement and extreme pleasure to a non-existent sex life.  The possibilities are endless with toys that tickle, caress, pulse, massage, suck, stroke and so much more to produce probably some of the best orgasms you will ever experience!   

This isn't one-sided;  there are options for men too from basic palm pals to sophisticated sex dolls.  There is something for everyone.  For the beginners and the experts, there is a world of adult toys being designed every day to fulfill your sexual needs!

I am so proud to see men and women taking care of their sexual health! Most of our customers have openly shared with us the situations that have influenced their choice to abstain from sex with a partner.  Maybe you are single, have trust issues, want to protect sexual and mental health, too busy for a relationship or simply don't want to be in one.  If so, your quality of life, your happiness and your sexual health does not have to suffer.

Take the time to learn your body; learn what turns you on and keeps you on.  Understand what turns you off and what are hard NOs.  Prioritize yourself and make time to enjoy you! Plan a self care day and keep the date!  Eliminate all distractions and indulge in yourself.  Experiment with toys that give you a different experience every time.  Trust me, there is so much to offer that you will not be bored! 

And don't worry if you are shy or consider yourself to be a very private person.  You can shop online at our website: https://ift.tt/Mn8RKqA and have your items delivered to your doorstep discretely. 

So what are you waiting for? 

Well Damn! I really gatta do better! I am so sorry yall! I have neglected yall for almost a year.  I'm gonna just go ahead and blame it on the pandemic like everyone else. ?  As for me, writing takes some inspiration sometimes and let's just say I was inspired multiple times (in one night) last week to jump on here. ?  Yall know what some bomb ass sex does to the female brain.  Now that I done came (no pun intended) ? off that hit of dopamine, serotonin and oxytocin I could say a few words.

Life can be such a BIT*CH sometimes.  Things can get overwhelming and stressful.  We get caught up in the day to day drab of to do lists, chores, routines and responsibilities that days turn into weeks, and weeks turn into months and then boom it's a year and you're a virgin again! Don't get so consumed by all there is to do that you forget to enjoy your daily spin around the sun.  Sex is such a great mood enhancer and here you are on day 3,789 wondering why life is so hard. You may be slightly depressed, moody and simply unhappy. I'm not a doctor or a psychiatrist but I can write you prescription for some SEX (if you're not getting any) to relieve some of that tension. 

I just love our Bahamian men.  I say it all the time! "They have the best talks"! A guy once said to me "Your oil need to change". LMAO The hilarious thing was that he was right! I really didn't realize how much sex affected my mental health.  For several weeks now I was writing my resignation letter in my mind. I had spoken to a few confidants who tried to talked me off the ledge. However, it wasn't until that encounter that my entire mood and mindset changed. I completely leveled off.  I was able to objectively look at my decision as my emotions were now in check. And not to brag but dude knew what he was doing!?

Of course I'm not saying that sex fixes everything, but when you're not getting any that may add to your problems. Sometimes it's difficult to get in the mood.  Last week, sex was the furthest thing from my mind. As a matter of fact, I could've cared less because I was prioritizing so many other things.  I hear a lot of women say this all the time. Sometimes it's intentional and sometimes it's just the way things are, but there is nothing like that human connection. That touch, that embrace.  Some of you need to feel human again; not like superwoman. Some of you need that intimacy that makes you vulnerable.  And then some of you need to be catered to, pampered and pleased. Some of you need to step into the bedroom and let go; recharge your life and repair some of the damage that has been done by the constant deprivation. 

Now what is my blog without my shameless plug? ? Whether you have fella or not that is no excuse to be deprived.  Visit crushedvelvet242.com and let's see how we can hook you up! I'm sure you've heard of the ? ROSE VIBRATOR by now! 

Come back soon and read about how I found Happiness In A Vibrator! 

? I know it's been a very long time.?    I apologize for making you wait so long. It's 2021 and I will try to do better! 

Now that we've passed that walk of shame part let's talk about nipples. ? I mean it is #tittytuesday

Nipples are one of the most erogenous spots on a person guys and gals alike! How many times have you given into sex because of them? Nipples can be a weak spot for some people.  They are sensitive little attention whores. Rubbing, kissing, licking, sucking, flicking, squeezing and biting can all be a complete turn on. They are must dos during foreplay. You can be as gentle or as rough as your partner desires.  Nipple play is the gateway to sex.  The stimulation is like a key to a world of pleasure.  You can modify by adding ice chips or warming oils or lubes to heighten the sensation.  Flavored lubes sweeten the deal and makes you want to suck even longer and harder.  A little pain is also pleasurable for everyone as seeing your partner's response to nipple play can also turn you on.  Biting and squeezing builds your desire as you want more of your body to be explored and caressed.  

Start of with a soft brush across the nipple during a kiss. Continue with circular motions with your finger and be sure to touch both nipples. This is so sexy when done from behind as you kiss and bite your partner's neck. [Sidebar: if your partner stops, ask you to stop, pulls or pushes you away or shows the slightest discomfort you probably should discontinue because not everyone likes nipple play]. Weirdos. Sorry no judgement? Move onto gentle short squeezes and light flicking.  By now the nipples should be firm and erect.  You should hear moans and heavy breathing, an indication that he or she is enjoying this. Finish off with soft playful licking, kisses and biting. If you really want to make them crazy, reach up and play with both nipples during oral sex. The simultaneous pleasure is a lot to process at one time and can result in some of the best orgasms.  For continuous stimulation during sex, you can introduce nipple clamps or suction cups. For guys who don't mind a little pain try this .  There is so much you can do and guess what???? You don't even need a partner! During your next masturbation sesh, rub your nipples to get the party started or you can free up your hands by using a vibrating nipple toy like the Nipple Suck-Hers.

The next time you want to start something (that you hopefully can finish) start at the top! Nipples need love too! 

So. It's been reported that there is an anticipated rise in divorces.  Domestic disputes have increased since the mandatory lockdowns where couples have been forced to interact with each other for longer than they clearly have been doing. ?  Some couples may have had to confront the intimacy issues within their relationships.  Believe it or not, there are couples who sleep in separate beds or even separate rooms. There has been a lack of sex and intimacy yet these couples have not divorced. Sometimes life gets in the way and that is the result among other things.  But for those couples who have simply lost the spark we want to encourage you to FALL IN LOVE ?AGAIN this October.

Be intentional in your actions. Be purposeful in your thoughts.  Be willing and determined to change.

We want couples to revive their sexual relationships by fostering intimacy.  Revisit the beginning and remember what brought you together.  What matchstick started the flame ?? Look at who you are today as individuals and what you need from each other. Explore you desires and be selfless in the bedroom. Do not treat sex as a duty or chore but as the expression of your love for each other. Do not use it as weapon? or a bargaining tool.  Stop using it to control and manipulate each other! Stop giving sex a bad rep. Seek professional help to address the underlying issues in your relationships that are masked by sex or the lack thereof. Mix things up! Sex can be deep and intimate and fun and playful. Experiment with locations, positions, role play, fetish play and adult novelties. Respect each others desires and reciprocate.  Like in other things learn to compromise. It's not about "you/me" it's about "us/we". 

Sex is important! Acknowledge it.  With the end of the year approaching, agree to improve your sexual relationship and work on it.  Don't fall prey to the lure of infidelity. Experience the best sex that you desire with your spouse.  It is possible. Be encouraged and follow us on Facebook and Instagram for more this month on how to do just that!

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• Triangle or Pear Shape

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So everyone’s into restraints now. It’s cute. But are you really being dominant or submissive?  Everyone knows I’m about that goodt goodt sex life.  I don’t do the mediocre.  It’s so bad that I’d prefer to indulge in self pleasure rather than have someone waste my time. The one place that I want to be submissive is in the bedroom.  On a job I have to be aggressive and always proving that I am equal to my male counterparts and in some cases even better. In my business I am the CEO or the HBIC depending on who you ask that day. As a mother I am the Tsar, the dictator and commander in chief.  With two master manipulators aged 18 and 9 I take no prisoners. I run a tight ship or else. During the day to day I have to finesse my interactions displaying strength and femininity simultaneously wielding my power.  It’s not easy being a young black woman. So when I enter that space of intimacy I am tired.  I just want to release some of my power. But not to just anyone. The transfer of power only occurs when there is a king ?in the room.  

Submission is more than collars and restraints.  It’s more than being whipped or commanded. Submission occurs when you fully trust your partner and you release yourself to their will. When you let go of your ego, your desire, and your will it is such a freeing experience.  Do you know what it’s like to have your soul kissed? This requires the highest level of intimacy. When I enter that space I expect you to reign supreme. I want you to initiate. I want you to orchestrate.  I want you to delegate.  We will do what you want and how you want it.  We are already in sync before we enter this space so there is no need for my permission.  You already know.

Dominance is more than control.  It is the art of skillfully harnessing a submissive will and manipulating it to achieve the common goal of intimacy on the highest level. It’s not a selfish thing.  Yes you are in control but you are tasked with ensuring that the experience is successfully fulfilling.  So I need you to know what you are doing sir. I will not submit to someone who lacks not only the sexual experience but also the knowledge, maturity and intimacy.  Don’t get me wrong.  You serve a purpose. Just not this one.   This is reserved for he who handles things outside of the bedroom.  He who has my back and supports me.  He who challenges me, uplifts and motivates me.  He who can turn me on without even touching me. He who speaks to my mind, my body and my soul. Get it? Submission goes beyond the sexual baby.

So as we continue to lock down, I want you to enhance your sexual experiences by exploring your dominant/submissive states. Engage in activities that will encourage willful submission. Try and connect to each others souls before sex and THEN decide what you both would like to try.  Check out the latest in kink at https://www.crushedvelvet242.com/store/c6/FetishandKink