Is it time for the revolution? Gaddamit! Why is SEX still such a controversial subject in my country. Everybody doing it! Well just about everybody and if no one does it then there goes your legacy and mine. We have been coerced into viewing SEX as such a negative thing so much that adult novelty stores are still very taboo places. The public makes you feel as though you are are committing a crime while some customers make you feel as if you are selling them drugs. I mean I know some of our vibrators are very addictive but they are very much legal.
Teen pregnancy and "sweethearting" (adultery) are still prevalent social ills in our country, yet everyone walks around as though they are all virgins. Maybe it is time to peel back this layer of stigma and have a conversation about SEX. Let's start telling the truth to our young people. We should continue tell them that SEX is not always great especially when you are not responsible and it results in unwanted and unplanned pregnancies or sexually transmitted diseases. It's also good to tell them that SEX also requires an level of emotional maturity. Engaging in sexual activity with a lack of intimacy could result in a variety of negative emotions such as insecurity, anxiety or depression. Let them in on the secret that SEX can be awful and unfulfilling especially when you or your partner have no clue. Maybe some of them will not feel like you are trying to deprive them of heaven as SEX is often depicted as such. Tell them that SEX can also be addictive like anything that is done in excess instead of just telling them to wait. Tell them that despite feelings of euphoria, SEX lasts on average up to 44 minutes and all of your problems are still there after it's done. Thus it is a very temporary happiness. In this age of the internet, remind them that sometimes you cannot trust people when they decide to create videos and send nude photos. Don't just preach abstinence but inform them of the possible consequences when engaging in sexual activity prematurely.
Now to you big men and women, why is SEX still so ah keke? Grow up! I can understand curiosity but you lose me with this unspoken joke. You have at least two sexual partners who you are probably "skinning" (engaging in unprotected sex) but there is still something hysterically funny about a vibrator. Oh. Ok. Or better yet, you have someone whole husband, singing on the praise team every Sunday but you would dare not be seen in an adult store even if you simply had to use the restroom. STOP IT! And to the guys, I haven't forgotten you. Maybe if your partners told you the truth, NO you are not the best they have ever had, NO they are not satisfied and YES they are faking it 100% of the time you would realize that YES you actually do need the help that you think you do not. Then maybe, just maybe people would not seek pleasure and real intimacy outside of their agreed upon relationships.
Even more importantly if people would live their TRUTH- the real one, the unadulterated gospel, then maybe we would have more sexually mature and responsible people. Like who you like! If you are attracted to big girls please stop pretending to like slim girls because your boys think slim girls are prettier or better or whatever they tell themselves that makes them sleep better at night. If you like guys who are dark skinned, please stop bringing home light skinned guys to please mama, because guess what, she is not the one who has to be in a relationship with that person. If you kinky please don't go around cheating because you don't want your partner to find out. I have found that in some cases your partner is up for it and more. Talk to them, tell them what you like, what pleases you and find out what they like and what pleases them. If necessary, seek out an intimacy coach such as Ms. Reva Dean @revaafterdark and get help in bringing new life to your sexual relationship.
I always advocate the need for communication. We need to be more open about SEX as a society, within our homes, our relationships, our schools and our religions. We need to embrace the fact that we are sexual beings and that SEX is normal. Get over it already!
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So I was in this great debate with some friends and some associates the other night. This topic has come up before in many different circles. Faking Orgasms. Even the guys are claiming to fake it and by fake it I assume they mean faking their enjoyment or sexual pleasure because of the mere fact that their orgasms are evidenced. Listen, not every woman experiences orgasm thru sexual intercourse. Because of the location of the infamous G-Spot, orgasms can be elusive for many. This is why clitoral stimulation is very important. There are over 8,000 never endings in the clit baybay! What that G-Spot won't do the clit will. This is why some women require that you perform cunnilingus; if you can't beat it eat it.
Anywho, the conversation went something like this.
The guys said that the younger women put in more work. That if the guy climaxed first, the younger women made sure to get them (the guys) aroused again so that they can proceed to make sure that they (the gals) have an orgasm. (basically she would do whatever it took to make sure his dick was hard enough so that in the next round it would be her time to cum).
Now I'm not a difficult person to get along with. As a matter of fact I'm a woman of too many chances. Also I know my body and I know how to achieve an orgasm independently of a partner. I gat dis! So I'm not difficult to please. However, I do have preferences and I do appreciate a guy who recovers quickly. Now I've said before that I am not unreasonable. So I know some factors can determine how quickly a guy can get another erection, age being a primary factor. So I have to note that I was talking to some guys over forty years old. My sexual experiences have forced me to manage my expectations so considering who I was talking to the rhetoric was not surprising.
Now my female counterparts (1) did not like the implication that older (tired body) women could not or did not put in said work to allow a guy to move on to round two and (b) that it was their responsibility to do this.
As I sat and listened to them I thought to myself DF! Hmmmm Sir, do you remember back when you were 20ish you did not have this problem? Well then. Do you know that there are younger guys who do not require all that slapping up? Aint nobody have time for all that. As a matter of fact, these fellas (young studs, biddies, Jrs) out here executing multiple rounds without even so much as a water break!
So you can understand how this discussion went. But it reminded me that sex is a two way street. We all want to be pleased so we all should equally participate. Sometimes women have to be the instigator. Men don't always want to be the one to initiate sex. Men get tired. They don't always want to put in all the work. Sometimes women have to take control.
Women want happy endings too guys. You can't be the only one having an orgasm. Even if you orgasm (cum) first please make sure that there is a next round and your partner cums too. In doing that, you really need to find out the easiest way for this to happen. For those women who come easily during sex it may depend on the position. Positions that bring the G-Spot closer to you are better. Sometimes some women don't even know what that is until you try it. Most women I've spoken to experience orgasms when they are laying on their side. Some women have to be in control so they ride themselves into their own orgasm.
If she cums easier by clitoral stimulation, you can perform oral sex ORRRRRR you can use a sex toy. Don't get all bent out of shape. Of course I am not attacking your manhood blah blah blah. I am merely suggesting that you make the woman happy. You don't have to use a whole dildo. But a small non-invasive finger vibe can blow her mind.
You can slide the Oral Love Finger Vibe on your index finger and gently rub it against her clit during sex. (I recommend doggy style) BOOM! She climaxes during sex! Everyone wins. For decoration, you can use a clitoral stimulant like ME SO HORNY which gives a warm heating sensation along with the finger vibe.
So no more of this faking it crap! We too grown to be faking anything people. You deserve to have an awesome sex life, great sexual experiences and mind blowing orgasms. So please as always, talk to your partner. Try new positions, and try some toys! See what works and make sure that both of you are happy!
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SOOOOOO we're all about to be locked inside for awhile. Some of us will be alone and some of us will have company. For those of you who have the blessing (or curse) of the company of your significant other, this is the perfect time to rekindle your sex life. Most couples complain that there isn't enough time for sex or that they are always tired. Well, now you'll be getting lots of rest and plenty of free time. So no more excuses! Here are some tips to pass the time:
TALK & LISTEN
It's free and I'm pretty sure some of you really need to do this. Moreover, try to LISTEN to each other. We always promote communication as the key in improving your relationship. Take this time to actually hear your partner and listen to what they are saying or asking.
As if this time needs any help going faster than it is, you can play a card game like Oral Sex Adventures or participate in a Sexy Scavenger Hunt. Roll the dice and pass the time following it's kinky instructions.
Or you can ROLE PLAY
Make it a MOVIE! Dress up as a sexy flight attendant, naughty nurse or slutty maid! Guys play your part too-a handyman is always needed.
TOUCH EACH OTHER
This a definitely a time to relax. Draw a hot bath and pop a scented bath bomb or take a shower together. Give each other feet and back massages with a fruit scented hemp massage oil.
Duhhhhh! You have 24 hours to have mind blowing, earth moving toe curling sex! Do it all!!! This is your time to experiment! Try new positions and better yet try a sex toy! Explore your deepest desires and confess your fantasies and fetishes! Get wild release and all of that tension!
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The classic toy! Vibrators have a long and colourful history being used to treat hysteria and all. But next to diamonds, vibes are definitely a girl's best friend. I am in love with my Jack Rabbit.
But then the Satisfyer Pro came along and just like an old broom, my most loved and respected toy got lost in the drawer to catch dust. The Satisfyer Pro gives a satisfaction like none other. Wireless and rechargeable it is always on call. (I haven't charged it since I charged it more than six months ago). The whole experience is totally different. The orgasm is pulled from deep within. There is no good way to explain such a phenomenon.
Imagine Nassau, 2019 you're standing at a faucet. You turn the handle slowly and the water drips and the more you turn, the drip turns into a flood. There is this intensity that builds and if you try and control it you just might cut yourself short and f@ck up the whole thing. (Note to self resume kegels) If you are strong enough you can control the climax and if you are successful it is mind blowing. Unlike the quickness of a bullet, rabbit or wand, it allows you to build up the intensity. There is nothing like it.
What's it really like?
A soft flick against your clit. It's technology uses the flow of air to mimic this light flicking that you can dial up with the one touch control that is easy to manipulate. However, I must warn you the higher you dial up, the quicker the orgasm and in my opinion slightly less satisfying.
Now if you are really in the mood to play. Try using both.
If you're really feeling yourself. I dare you! It's explosive and so very satisfying! Also, you wanna use a G-Spot Rabbit for this job and you should turn it backwards to begin and then adjust it right side up so that it hits the G-Spot. Fellas listen to me. If you need help finding her g-spot, I suggest you practice with a g-spot toy so that you can visualize where exactly you wanna hit. As usual, you can visit our website and stop by our new location #347 Baillou Hill & Crab Apple Roads to view what's in stock.
There is still power in the pussy but there is nothing like power personified in a man. There is nothing like when he has your number - and trust me someone does. Their presence has the power to change your mood instantly on sight! The sound of their voice reverberates through your body as you submit to their will before anything is even asked of you.
You know power?
The toxicity level is dangerously exhilarating. There is no need for pheromones. Their smile alone can melt away your underwear. One hand on the small of your back, the warmth of their breath on your skin and you are ready and willing to be the getaway driver.
Who has your number?
His complexion possess the power of the sun. His smile is as broad as his shoulders. He takes up all of the space in my mind. Constantly I remind myself to breathe. Isn’t it supposed to be involuntary? He is just a man. A man with my number. And when he dials me up, my temperature rises as small beads of perspiration appear on my forehead and I fail to hide my heightened sense of arousal.
"I wanna see you"
Those words are so heavy. You rearrange your schedule to accommodate the request immediately. As the anxiety builds you daydream of the past and the future. The first time, the last time, the next time. He is just a man. With the power to separate your soul from its casing. He is the existential threat to your sanity. How can someone, a mere man, possess such power to invade your thoughts and make a mockery of you and all of your sensibilities. You and all of your education, all of your self-respect and your decency. They have no place when he enters the room. They are nothing and your are left with nothing but a compelling need to subject yourself to his happiness, his desires, and his will.
Answer the phone.
There is an exchange of power waiting. It is phenomenal as he pours into you. Now you possess the power; you are the conductor. He is vulnerable as is eyes begs with intent. As his pulse quickens and as he gives up his dominion. Now the queen has arrived. My neck, my back - no hunni, these lips, my eyes, my touch they seduce and conquer before anything even happens. My body demands to be desired and with every encounter there is a form of worship that takes place in every position. Shall I flex on him? Sir, you may have my number but I run this show. It begins and ends as quickly as I want it to. You explode on my command. I give and I take. Deeper, slower, harder, faster.
All hail the queen!
There is this exchange of power. It makes me giddy with accomplishment. He wields it and I harness it. I conquer it to use it against him again and again. There are levels to this. You just have sex.
I exchange power.
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So you're thinking it's going to be awesome, epic, the best night of your life. But it ends up being tragic, a flop and you're so disappointed because you like him/her orrrrrrrr you're stuck with him/her for the rest of your life.
Who's to blame?
Well when you walk into the bedroom, your hot sexy body isn't the only thing that enters with you. You bring your insecurities, your religious denominations, your preconceived notions about sex, you bring your friends and families advice, you bring what you see on television or porn and you bring what you may have experienced with someone else.
That is alot. Can you imagine processing ALLLLLLL of that data during what on average lasts about 20 minutes and you wonder why you are not having the best sex of your life?
I've said it before and I'll say it again. Most of it is in your head darling and the rest of it is in communication. Empty your mind. Just let go of everything that you think you know. Then let the conversation begin. Ask yourself the big questions and be honest. What excites you? What do you truly want to accomplish in the bedroom? How do you really feel about sex? Do you enjoy sex? What can you do to ensure that your sexual experiences are always great and memorable?
Then ask your partner.
As stressful as it seems, how are you ever going to know. Because hunni, people fake it all the time!
What turns them on? What do they like? What about you turns them on? What do they dislike? More importantly do you please them and vice versa? If you are serious about improving your experiences you cannot rely on what you think you know. Moreover, people change. What your partner may have been into 10 years ago may now be boring to them. You have to have the conversation!
As always, for more information GOOGLE and READ! (You can even ask Suri or Alexa) because I certainly don't have all of the answers. And when you'e ready to try something new don't forget to visit us at www.crushedvelvet242.com and Like and Follow us on Facebook and Instagram @naughtyandnice242 and @crushedvelvet242
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So apparently people are still out here engaging in sexual activity in their cars and in public spaces like the beach. Maybe it's out of spontaneity or they don't have the coins for a motel or hotel room or they simply won't spend money on a room. But whatever the reason, please note that it is risky business. I have heard some tragic stories about rape and robbery that stems from such activities and I've heard some hilarious ones that involve been caught by the police.
Some motels aren't in the best of conditions and I guess it seems better to forego getting a room. But nowadays rather than staying at a motel you can rent a room or a whole house on airbnb.com. I have had the good fortune of renting a place in South Eleuthera last year that was surprisingly better than I expected. I've also stayed at a very nice location in Nassau that boasts two other private rentals.
These rentals can cost as much as a regular motel or hotel room but provide a different level of comfort. Depending on the location it can feel like home. Some rentals offer full kitchens and multiple rooms including amenities you can find at a hotel such as swimming pools. Renting a room doesn't have to be such a tawdry affair anymore as some places are in residential areas and resemble the surrounding homes. So there is no "walk of shame" down the hall to the checkout counter. Additionally, you can plan a romantic weekend getaway devoid of other guests and noise and turn your getaway into a mini vacation. But if you're just popping in for a few hours here are five items that can turn your night into sexy rendezvous :
1. BODY STOCKINGS. I call it the Quickie Lingerie. Super sexy and easy to wear. You can literally wear this under your regular clothing that night. It's raunchy and leaves nothing to the imagination. ANNNDD it doesn't have to come off. And guys we love effort. Show off a the goods in fitted boxer brief or just bring a well oiled body. We like eye candy too!
2. Flavored Lube Ditch the whip cream and try some Peaches N Cream Lickable Lube or any flavored lube for that matter. Flavored lubes make a great addition to foreplay! (FYI the whip cream gets watery after a while-you're welcome)
3. Disposable Toy Bring the ??? by throwing a disposable toy in the mix. Vibrating love rings like the one above are inexpensive and totally discreet novelties you can try without spending a lot on something that you may not not like. It last for 30 consecutive minutes of usage and you simply throw it away.
4. Play A Game If you have the time, make it a little challenging. Play a game to build your desire for each other. Glow in the dark dice are small and interesting ways to intensify your foreplay. They help you to zoom in on erogenous zones and allows you to find your lover's secret spots. You can also try card games and coupons.
5. Your A Game! Enhancement Creme like Sta-Erect and Prolong are delay creams for men. Guys, if you're spending money on a rental I would think that you would want to make the most out of it. You didn't do all of that so you can watch TV! There is TV at home. I prefer to recommend creams or gels rather than pills because of drug interactions. These packets are small and discreet, ordorless and colorless little magicians that desensitize so that you can go longer. (Ladies if you apply a little during a hand job-I won't tell)
I'm just saying if you're going to rent a room, have some fun! Get your money's worth especially if you don't intend to sleep in and don't be afraid to shop around. There are some awesome affordable places right here in town!
Thank you for reading and please feel free to COMMENT, LIKE & SHARE until next time!
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