Well Damn! I really gatta do better! I am so sorry yall! I have neglected yall for almost a year. I'm gonna just go ahead and blame it on the pandemic like everyone else. ? As for me, writing takes some inspiration sometimes and let's just say I was inspired multiple times (in one night) last week to jump on here. ? Yall know what some bomb ass sex does to the female brain. Now that I done came (no pun intended) ? off that hit of dopamine, serotonin and oxytocin I could say a few words.
Life can be such a BIT*CH sometimes. Things can get overwhelming and stressful. We get caught up in the day to day drab of to do lists, chores, routines and responsibilities that days turn into weeks, and weeks turn into months and then boom it's a year and you're a virgin again! Don't get so consumed by all there is to do that you forget to enjoy your daily spin around the sun. Sex is such a great mood enhancer and here you are on day 3,789 wondering why life is so hard. You may be slightly depressed, moody and simply unhappy. I'm not a doctor or a psychiatrist but I can write you prescription for some SEX (if you're not getting any) to relieve some of that tension.
I just love our Bahamian men. I say it all the time! "They have the best talks"! A guy once said to me "Your oil need to change". LMAO The hilarious thing was that he was right! I really didn't realize how much sex affected my mental health. For several weeks now I was writing my resignation letter in my mind. I had spoken to a few confidants who tried to talked me off the ledge. However, it wasn't until that encounter that my entire mood and mindset changed. I completely leveled off. I was able to objectively look at my decision as my emotions were now in check. And not to brag but dude knew what he was doing!?
Of course I'm not saying that sex fixes everything, but when you're not getting any that may add to your problems. Sometimes it's difficult to get in the mood. Last week, sex was the furthest thing from my mind. As a matter of fact, I could've cared less because I was prioritizing so many other things. I hear a lot of women say this all the time. Sometimes it's intentional and sometimes it's just the way things are, but there is nothing like that human connection. That touch, that embrace. Some of you need to feel human again; not like superwoman. Some of you need that intimacy that makes you vulnerable. And then some of you need to be catered to, pampered and pleased. Some of you need to step into the bedroom and let go; recharge your life and repair some of the damage that has been done by the constant deprivation.
Now what is my blog without my shameless plug? ? Whether you have fella or not that is no excuse to be deprived. Visit crushedvelvet242.com and let's see how we can hook you up! I'm sure you've heard of the ? ROSE VIBRATOR by now!
Come back soon and read about how I found Happiness In A Vibrator!
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? I know it's been a very long time.? I apologize for making you wait so long. It's 2021 and I will try to do better!
Now that we've passed that walk of shame part let's talk about nipples. ? I mean it is #tittytuesday
Nipples are one of the most erogenous spots on a person guys and gals alike! How many times have you given into sex because of them? Nipples can be a weak spot for some people. They are sensitive little attention whores. Rubbing, kissing, licking, sucking, flicking, squeezing and biting can all be a complete turn on. They are must dos during foreplay. You can be as gentle or as rough as your partner desires. Nipple play is the gateway to sex. The stimulation is like a key to a world of pleasure. You can modify by adding ice chips or warming oils or lubes to heighten the sensation. Flavored lubes sweeten the deal and makes you want to suck even longer and harder. A little pain is also pleasurable for everyone as seeing your partner's response to nipple play can also turn you on. Biting and squeezing builds your desire as you want more of your body to be explored and caressed.
Start of with a soft brush across the nipple during a kiss. Continue with circular motions with your finger and be sure to touch both nipples. This is so sexy when done from behind as you kiss and bite your partner's neck. [Sidebar: if your partner stops, ask you to stop, pulls or pushes you away or shows the slightest discomfort you probably should discontinue because not everyone likes nipple play]. Weirdos. Sorry no judgement? Move onto gentle short squeezes and light flicking. By now the nipples should be firm and erect. You should hear moans and heavy breathing, an indication that he or she is enjoying this. Finish off with soft playful licking, kisses and biting. If you really want to make them crazy, reach up and play with both nipples during oral sex. The simultaneous pleasure is a lot to process at one time and can result in some of the best orgasms. For continuous stimulation during sex, you can introduce nipple clamps or suction cups. For guys who don't mind a little pain try this . There is so much you can do and guess what???? You don't even need a partner! During your next masturbation sesh, rub your nipples to get the party started or you can free up your hands by using a vibrating nipple toy like the Nipple Suck-Hers.
The next time you want to start something (that you hopefully can finish) start at the top! Nipples need love too!
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So. It's been reported that there is an anticipated rise in divorces. Domestic disputes have increased since the mandatory lockdowns where couples have been forced to interact with each other for longer than they clearly have been doing. ? Some couples may have had to confront the intimacy issues within their relationships. Believe it or not, there are couples who sleep in separate beds or even separate rooms. There has been a lack of sex and intimacy yet these couples have not divorced. Sometimes life gets in the way and that is the result among other things. But for those couples who have simply lost the spark we want to encourage you to FALL IN LOVE ?AGAIN this October.
Be intentional in your actions. Be purposeful in your thoughts. Be willing and determined to change.
We want couples to revive their sexual relationships by fostering intimacy. Revisit the beginning and remember what brought you together. What matchstick started the flame ?? Look at who you are today as individuals and what you need from each other. Explore you desires and be selfless in the bedroom. Do not treat sex as a duty or chore but as the expression of your love for each other. Do not use it as weapon? or a bargaining tool. Stop using it to control and manipulate each other! Stop giving sex a bad rep. Seek professional help to address the underlying issues in your relationships that are masked by sex or the lack thereof. Mix things up! Sex can be deep and intimate and fun and playful. Experiment with locations, positions, role play, fetish play and adult novelties. Respect each others desires and reciprocate. Like in other things learn to compromise. It's not about "you/me" it's about "us/we".
Sex is important! Acknowledge it. With the end of the year approaching, agree to improve your sexual relationship and work on it. Don't fall prey to the lure of infidelity. Experience the best sex that you desire with your spouse. It is possible. Be encouraged and follow us on Facebook and Instagram for more this month on how to do just that!
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Lingerie shopping can be overwhelming especially if you do not have a positive body image. It’s already difficult as it is shopping for regular clothes. You want something that makes you feel sexy and desirable and at the same time hides whatever you perceive as imperfections. What make shopping for the perfect item more difficult is the inability to try them on because of hygienic reasons. So what’s a girl to do other than stand there and picture what she may look like in a particular piece of lingerie? Well the best advice I can give is to get to know your body type and what looks good on you. What accentuates your best assets while hiding your flaws.
Here are a few tips to remember when choosing lingerie:
This means that your bust, waist and hips are of similar size and that your curves are minimal. You want to choose Slips, Corsets & Garter Belts to add curves. Teddies are also great if you have a longer torso.
You have a top heavy figure with slim legs and arms and wide shoulders. Babydolls, Teddies and Robes can hide your midsection while Matching Sets with Push Up Bras draw attention to your chest.
Full busts, small waist and hips with wide shoulders look best in Halter Necklines. Matching Sets and Cami Sets give a straight look and even your bottom with your top.
With bigger hips and thighs and smaller shoulders, waist and bust it could go either way. If your goal is to flaunt your bottom, Bustiers and Flowing Babydolls will do the job. Matching Sets with Ruffle Bras enhance your top while Rompers with plunging necklines even your top with your bottom.
You Bitch. ? I’m Sorry. ? Your busts and hips are proportionate and your waist is small but well defined. Lucky Bitch. I’m Sorry. As I was saying, you look good in everything, ? however Corsets, MatchingSets, and Garter Skirts enhance the obeah that is your non-existent waist line.
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So everyone’s into restraints now. It’s cute. But are you really being dominant or submissive? Everyone knows I’m about that goodt goodt sex life. I don’t do the mediocre. It’s so bad that I’d prefer to indulge in self pleasure rather than have someone waste my time. The one place that I want to be submissive is in the bedroom. On a job I have to be aggressive and always proving that I am equal to my male counterparts and in some cases even better. In my business I am the CEO or the HBIC depending on who you ask that day. As a mother I am the Tsar, the dictator and commander in chief. With two master manipulators aged 18 and 9 I take no prisoners. I run a tight ship or else. During the day to day I have to finesse my interactions displaying strength and femininity simultaneously wielding my power. It’s not easy being a young black woman. So when I enter that space of intimacy I am tired. I just want to release some of my power. But not to just anyone. The transfer of power only occurs when there is a king ?in the room.
Submission is more than collars and restraints. It’s more than being whipped or commanded. Submission occurs when you fully trust your partner and you release yourself to their will. When you let go of your ego, your desire, and your will it is such a freeing experience. Do you know what it’s like to have your soul kissed? This requires the highest level of intimacy. When I enter that space I expect you to reign supreme. I want you to initiate. I want you to orchestrate. I want you to delegate. We will do what you want and how you want it. We are already in sync before we enter this space so there is no need for my permission. You already know.
Dominance is more than control. It is the art of skillfully harnessing a submissive will and manipulating it to achieve the common goal of intimacy on the highest level. It’s not a selfish thing. Yes you are in control but you are tasked with ensuring that the experience is successfully fulfilling. So I need you to know what you are doing sir. I will not submit to someone who lacks not only the sexual experience but also the knowledge, maturity and intimacy. Don’t get me wrong. You serve a purpose. Just not this one. This is reserved for he who handles things outside of the bedroom. He who has my back and supports me. He who challenges me, uplifts and motivates me. He who can turn me on without even touching me. He who speaks to my mind, my body and my soul. Get it? Submission goes beyond the sexual baby.
So as we continue to lock down, I want you to enhance your sexual experiences by exploring your dominant/submissive states. Engage in activities that will encourage willful submission. Try and connect to each others souls before sex and THEN decide what you both would like to try. Check out the latest in kink at https://www.crushedvelvet242.com/store/c6/FetishandKink
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When Trey Songz said " I love the way you fuck me, I luv the way you fuck me" on Tank's trapsy ass song 'When We'-I felt that.? As a matter of fact I feel it everytime. It's the perfect catalyst for a dick ?appointment.
I say it all the time; sex starts in the mind. ?Music, alcohol and memories can spark the motivation to reach out to that person. Or sometimes the intention is not even there but you end up flirting your way into an agreement where you show up at a certain place and time to have the kind of sex where only cuss words and safe words are used.
So now that you have secured said appointment, here is how not to f it up:
In order for it to be successful you both have to match each other's energy. You both have to be on the same page -two willing participants who are both into it. No coercion, no manipulation, nothing forced. This one time at band camp? I met this guy who was a SUPER FREAK?♂️ I needed all of my wheaties just to match his energy and not just physically. His excitement level eclipsed mine so much it made me a little paranoid. I was like dude calm down it is not that serious. But in hindsight it was flattering to have someone trip over your sex like that.?
Leave your expectations and inhibitions at the door. Your mind should be as open as your legs. Have that converastion about hard NOs ?beforehand so that there are no misunderstandings. Be ready and open to try new things and don't judge your partner. Don't overthink things. Just allow the scence to unfold naturally.
Come prepared. This not only means protection but also includes lubes, lingerie, massage oils, toys and anything else that you may need or want to experience.
Show up to serve. Instead of focusing on self gratification focus on blowing your partner's mind! If both of you are hellbent on pleasing each other instead of pleasing yourselves no one will leave feeling robbed. This is the law of reciprocity.
Act brand new. Do something new, try new positions, dress up or down or even a new personality. Get creative and make it interesting. Treat everytime like the first time.
Say less and do more! ?What can I say? The best appointments are those where you barely say a word to each other. Nothing needs to be said. You just know what the other person needs and excute without any unecessary verbal communication. Have you ever had one senctence or word ruin your entire mood? Yeah that! So keep it quiet and just allow your bodies to talk.
Finally ladies and gents try your best to keep your appoinments.? If you anticipate that you may have to cancel please give proper notice. Don't waste people's time because you may never get another appointment again.
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They say happiness is found in a vibrator but I am here to say that yall don't know happy until you have tried the Satisfyer. As proud owner for over two years I am ecstatic with my Satisfyer; henceforth known as my precious. I literally gush every time I talk about it. You could swear I was talking about a person with a penis. The last time I blogged about a toy, it was the Jack Rabbit and that was some time ago. But I stopped by to give yall a word today! The Satisfyer is king of the drawer honey! As a matter of fact he has his own little special place far away from the peasants (that's what I call my bullet vibes and jack rabbit but don't tell them that)? It does exactly what it says-SATISFIES!!!!
Unlike a vibrating bullet or dildo vibe, the Satisfyer is subtle and very unassuming. Its simple and unique design makes it so discreet that people often mistake it for a facial cleanser. This toy is very easy to use with a power button and illuminated speed control. It is a newly engineered clitoral stimulator with contact free pressure wave technology. Now let me tell you about this. It does not vibrate. What you experience is a subtle swelling suction and a throbbing pressure. Once it is in the perfect position over the clitoris the noise level drops and it becomes silent. With multiple speeds you can build up to an orgasm or just go for an instant eruption?. No one I know has made it past level 4. The pleasure you get either way is insanely unbelievable. I’d like to say that it evokes an orgasm from deep within-unlike the shallow surface level orgasms you may get with a vibrator. It's like slowly turning on a faucet until the water comes rushing out.? The climax is so explosive that your legs get weak, you get airplane ear and you can't bear to hold it against your clit any longer. When last have you had an orgasm so powerful you couldn't walk and you couldn't hear? Don't even think that you're gonna try and cheat and hold back or prolong an orgasm because it doesn't work. You're gonna cum and quickly.
Due to its ergonomic design, you can use this alone or with a partner. If you are brave enough you will quickly succumb to multiple orgasms and that's if you can hold on for the ride. Imagine clitoral stimulation and penetration. I double dare you to kick it up a notch with an anal toy. It’s a feeling of fullness that is otherwise indescribable. Don’t take my word for it. Try one today! Trust me and the other giddy customers who took my advice-you will be SATISFIED baby!
Disclaimer: This toy gets you addicted to cumming. Please don't let this get between you and your man. If you know he jealous don't bother with that.
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Is it time for the revolution? Gaddamit! Why is SEX still such a controversial subject in my country. Everybody doing it! Well just about everybody and if no one does it then there goes your legacy and mine. We have been coerced into viewing SEX as such a negative thing so much that adult novelty stores are still very taboo places. The public makes you feel as though you are are committing a crime while some customers make you feel as if you are selling them drugs. I mean I know some of our vibrators are very addictive but they are very much legal.
Teen pregnancy and "sweethearting" (adultery) are still prevalent social ills in our country, yet everyone walks around as though they are all virgins. Maybe it is time to peel back this layer of stigma and have a conversation about SEX. Let's start telling the truth to our young people. We should continue tell them that SEX is not always great especially when you are not responsible and it results in unwanted and unplanned pregnancies or sexually transmitted diseases. It's also good to tell them that SEX also requires an level of emotional maturity. Engaging in sexual activity with a lack of intimacy could result in a variety of negative emotions such as insecurity, anxiety or depression. Let them in on the secret that SEX can be awful and unfulfilling especially when you or your partner have no clue. Maybe some of them will not feel like you are trying to deprive them of heaven as SEX is often depicted as such. Tell them that SEX can also be addictive like anything that is done in excess instead of just telling them to wait. Tell them that despite feelings of euphoria, SEX lasts on average up to 44 minutes and all of your problems are still there after it's done. Thus it is a very temporary happiness. In this age of the internet, remind them that sometimes you cannot trust people when they decide to create videos and send nude photos. Don't just preach abstinence but inform them of the possible consequences when engaging in sexual activity prematurely.
Now to you big men and women, why is SEX still so ah keke? Grow up! I can understand curiosity but you lose me with this unspoken joke. You have at least two sexual partners who you are probably "skinning" (engaging in unprotected sex) but there is still something hysterically funny about a vibrator. Oh. Ok. Or better yet, you have someone whole husband, singing on the praise team every Sunday but you would dare not be seen in an adult store even if you simply had to use the restroom. STOP IT! And to the guys, I haven't forgotten you. Maybe if your partners told you the truth, NO you are not the best they have ever had, NO they are not satisfied and YES they are faking it 100% of the time you would realize that YES you actually do need the help that you think you do not. Then maybe, just maybe people would not seek pleasure and real intimacy outside of their agreed upon relationships.
Even more importantly if people would live their TRUTH- the real one, the unadulterated gospel, then maybe we would have more sexually mature and responsible people. Like who you like! If you are attracted to big girls please stop pretending to like slim girls because your boys think slim girls are prettier or better or whatever they tell themselves that makes them sleep better at night. If you like guys who are dark skinned, please stop bringing home light skinned guys to please mama, because guess what, she is not the one who has to be in a relationship with that person. If you kinky please don't go around cheating because you don't want your partner to find out. I have found that in some cases your partner is up for it and more. Talk to them, tell them what you like, what pleases you and find out what they like and what pleases them. If necessary, seek out an intimacy coach such as Ms. Reva Dean @revaafterdark and get help in bringing new life to your sexual relationship.
I always advocate the need for communication. We need to be more open about SEX as a society, within our homes, our relationships, our schools and our religions. We need to embrace the fact that we are sexual beings and that SEX is normal. Get over it already!
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So I was in this great debate with some friends and some associates the other night. This topic has come up before in many different circles. Faking Orgasms. Even the guys are claiming to fake it and by fake it I assume they mean faking their enjoyment or sexual pleasure because of the mere fact that their orgasms are evidenced. Listen, not every woman experiences orgasm thru sexual intercourse. Because of the location of the infamous G-Spot, orgasms can be elusive for many. This is why clitoral stimulation is very important. There are over 8,000 never endings in the clit baybay! What that G-Spot won't do the clit will. This is why some women require that you perform cunnilingus; if you can't beat it eat it.
Anywho, the conversation went something like this.
The guys said that the younger women put in more work. That if the guy climaxed first, the younger women made sure to get them (the guys) aroused again so that they can proceed to make sure that they (the gals) have an orgasm. (basically she would do whatever it took to make sure his dick was hard enough so that in the next round it would be her time to cum).
Now I'm not a difficult person to get along with. As a matter of fact I'm a woman of too many chances. Also I know my body and I know how to achieve an orgasm independently of a partner. I gat dis! So I'm not difficult to please. However, I do have preferences and I do appreciate a guy who recovers quickly. Now I've said before that I am not unreasonable. So I know some factors can determine how quickly a guy can get another erection, age being a primary factor. So I have to note that I was talking to some guys over forty years old. My sexual experiences have forced me to manage my expectations so considering who I was talking to the rhetoric was not surprising.
Now my female counterparts (1) did not like the implication that older (tired body) women could not or did not put in said work to allow a guy to move on to round two and (b) that it was their responsibility to do this.
As I sat and listened to them I thought to myself DF! Hmmmm Sir, do you remember back when you were 20ish you did not have this problem? Well then. Do you know that there are younger guys who do not require all that slapping up? Aint nobody have time for all that. As a matter of fact, these fellas (young studs, biddies, Jrs) out here executing multiple rounds without even so much as a water break!
So you can understand how this discussion went. But it reminded me that sex is a two way street. We all want to be pleased so we all should equally participate. Sometimes women have to be the instigator. Men don't always want to be the one to initiate sex. Men get tired. They don't always want to put in all the work. Sometimes women have to take control.
Women want happy endings too guys. You can't be the only one having an orgasm. Even if you orgasm (cum) first please make sure that there is a next round and your partner cums too. In doing that, you really need to find out the easiest way for this to happen. For those women who come easily during sex it may depend on the position. Positions that bring the G-Spot closer to you are better. Sometimes some women don't even know what that is until you try it. Most women I've spoken to experience orgasms when they are laying on their side. Some women have to be in control so they ride themselves into their own orgasm.
If she cums easier by clitoral stimulation, you can perform oral sex ORRRRRR you can use a sex toy. Don't get all bent out of shape. Of course I am not attacking your manhood blah blah blah. I am merely suggesting that you make the woman happy. You don't have to use a whole dildo. But a small non-invasive finger vibe can blow her mind.
You can slide the Oral Love Finger Vibe on your index finger and gently rub it against her clit during sex. (I recommend doggy style) BOOM! She climaxes during sex! Everyone wins. For decoration, you can use a clitoral stimulant like ME SO HORNY which gives a warm heating sensation along with the finger vibe.
So no more of this faking it crap! We too grown to be faking anything people. You deserve to have an awesome sex life, great sexual experiences and mind blowing orgasms. So please as always, talk to your partner. Try new positions, and try some toys! See what works and make sure that both of you are happy!
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SOOOOOO we're all about to be locked inside for awhile. Some of us will be alone and some of us will have company. For those of you who have the blessing (or curse) of the company of your significant other, this is the perfect time to rekindle your sex life. Most couples complain that there isn't enough time for sex or that they are always tired. Well, now you'll be getting lots of rest and plenty of free time. So no more excuses! Here are some tips to pass the time:
TALK & LISTEN
It's free and I'm pretty sure some of you really need to do this. Moreover, try to LISTEN to each other. We always promote communication as the key in improving your relationship. Take this time to actually hear your partner and listen to what they are saying or asking.
As if this time needs any help going faster than it is, you can play a card game like Oral Sex Adventures or participate in a Sexy Scavenger Hunt. Roll the dice and pass the time following it's kinky instructions.
Or you can ROLE PLAY
Make it a MOVIE! Dress up as a sexy flight attendant, naughty nurse or slutty maid! Guys play your part too-a handyman is always needed.
TOUCH EACH OTHER
This a definitely a time to relax. Draw a hot bath and pop a scented bath bomb or take a shower together. Give each other feet and back massages with a fruit scented hemp massage oil.
Duhhhhh! You have 24 hours to have mind blowing, earth moving toe curling sex! Do it all!!! This is your time to experiment! Try new positions and better yet try a sex toy! Explore your deepest desires and confess your fantasies and fetishes! Get wild release and all of that tension!
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